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Post by Citris on Jul 22, 2020 18:45:15 GMT -4
Good for you and living your truth, that takes a lot of courage, even in 2020. Glad that you are feeling more at peace and that burden is off you! For old times sake, what are you doing watching all those levels of hockey! wtf! Women are allowed to like hockey too My identity doesn't change my ambitions haha, I'd still like to scout for a QMJHL club. While acknowledging that there is a chance this makes things challenging for me, I hope that I will have an opportunity at some point.
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Post by Citris on Mar 12, 2021 20:42:57 GMT -4
Hahaha, for anyone who doesn't follow me on Twitter and is curious as to how it's going, meet 8 months on HRT me Oh, also my name is now legally Charlotte, so that's pretty awesome ^.^ Edited this to un-link my twitter XD
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Post by Citris on Mar 14, 2021 22:31:17 GMT -4
Updated with a slightly cuter/more natural looking picture.
Actually quite proud of this one XD
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Post by SteveUL on Mar 15, 2021 10:57:17 GMT -4
So give us an update. Since you started this journey, how has it gone with friends and family, your career ? Not asking you to share anything that you aren't ready to share. Just curious to see what you have dealt with along the way.
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Post by Citris on Mar 15, 2021 12:48:55 GMT -4
So give us an update. Since you started this journey, how has it gone with friends and family, your career ? Not asking you to share anything that you aren't ready to share. Just curious to see what you have dealt with along the way. First off, thanks very much for asking! I don't mind sharing at all Honestly, coming out here was kind of a... test run for me. It was the first place I came out that wasn't explicitly queer-friendly, if that makes sense? It's not that I expected it to go badly, but, this is a place where people are more close to what I'd see in real life, with diverse political and social views. Coming out here was terrifying, because I just didn't know what to expect. It could have gone really wrong, but, I knew I had to start somewhere. So, for everyone who sent me messages of support, I sincerely thank you, because it really did take a lot of that fear and doubt away for when I came out to my extended family, co-workers, etc. As for the rest of my life, it's been really good honestly! I mean, there have been some challenges, my grandmothers are tough, they don't really "get it", and one has dementia and can't really remember anyway. A few other family members have been a challenge too. I try to be understanding for sure, and I gave people a lot of passes for the first... 6 months or so, but like, eventually I had to start putting my foot down haha. "Slipping up" is expected but you can kinda tell when people are actually trying vs. people who don't really care. Like if you deadname me 5 times in 10 minutes, you're not trying. Work has been surprisingly great. I think the business world has gotten to the point where this is taken seriously, so, I'm sure memos were sent around haha. But yea, I've been she/her'd and called by my correct name since I came out in like August. Even during my awkward "I don't know how to dress myself" phase haha. (every Trans girl gets one Honestly I'm probably still in it, I'll look back in another 6 months and ask "What the hell was I thinking? / God learn how to do your makeup!") Actually I had a few really touching interactions with people at work, a lady just started last summer, I set up her PC, she saw me for the first time and told me I looked beautiful, which was... an incredible feeling. Also another lady gave me a scarf of hers because I had complimented one of her other ones she owned I think my worst interaction was with my building manager. When I asked to have my name changed on the lease she said "I'm always going to call you *deadname*" and that she was going to talk to her lawyers to see if she HAD to change my name. Tho, she did talk to her lawyers and they probably told her that I could sue her for her behavior so, she's VERY quick to call me Charlotte now, but obviously I feel like it's pretty fake. She also asked me questions about my relationship, which is none of her business. I actually just went to sign my lease this morning, so I made a point to put on makeup and put on the top that best shows off my uhh..... "new figure" haha. Call it spiteful, or petty but, whatever, it's fun. Anyway yea, overall things are going well, I'm really happy with the progress I'm making physically too, my face looks so much softer and more feminine, my hair looks more full, I uhhh... won't be running without a sports bra this year lol. Going to my first laser hair removal appointment next month too so, that's exciting. Eventually I'll be rid of this awful lip hair XD There's some other changes that people just, don't really prepare you for. My hands are so much more soft and delicate now, I get so many random cuts and scratches now. Apparently between 1 and 2 years I might experience sensory changes, like my sense of touch, taste and smell, which is something nobody told me about beforehand lol.
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Post by themandalorian on Mar 15, 2021 14:31:54 GMT -4
So give us an update. Since you started this journey, how has it gone with friends and family, your career ? Not asking you to share anything that you aren't ready to share. Just curious to see what you have dealt with along the way. First off, thanks very much for asking! I don't mind sharing at all Honestly, coming out here was kind of a... test run for me. It was the first place I came out that wasn't explicitly queer-friendly, if that makes sense? It's not that I expected it to go badly, but, this is a place where people are more close to what I'd see in real life, with diverse political and social views. Coming out here was terrifying, because I just didn't know what to expect. It could have gone really wrong, but, I knew I had to start somewhere. So, for everyone who sent me messages of support, I sincerely thank you, because it really did take a lot of that fear and doubt away for when I came out to my extended family, co-workers, etc. As for the rest of my life, it's been really good honestly! I mean, there have been some challenges, my grandmothers are tough, they don't really "get it", and one has dementia and can't really remember anyway. A few other family members have been a challenge too. I try to be understanding for sure, and I gave people a lot of passes for the first... 6 months or so, but like, eventually I had to start putting my foot down haha. "Slipping up" is expected but you can kinda tell when people are actually trying vs. people who don't really care. Like if you deadname me 5 times in 10 minutes, you're not trying. Work has been surprisingly great. I think the business world has gotten to the point where this is taken seriously, so, I'm sure memos were sent around haha. But yea, I've been she/her'd and called by my correct name since I came out in like August. Even during my awkward "I don't know how to dress myself" phase haha. (every Trans girl gets one Honestly I'm probably still in it, I'll look back in another 6 months and ask "What the hell was I thinking? / God learn how to do your makeup!") Actually I had a few really touching interactions with people at work, a lady just started last summer, I set up her PC, she saw me for the first time and told me I looked beautiful, which was... an incredible feeling. Also another lady gave me a scarf of hers because I had complimented one of her other ones she owned I think my worst interaction was with my building manager. When I asked to have my name changed on the lease she said "I'm always going to call you *deadname*" and that she was going to talk to her lawyers to see if she HAD to change my name. Tho, she did talk to her lawyers and they probably told her that I could sue her for her behavior so, she's VERY quick to call me Charlotte now, but obviously I feel like it's pretty fake. She also asked me questions about my relationship, which is none of her business. I actually just went to sign my lease this morning, so I made a point to put on makeup and put on the top that best shows off my uhh..... "new figure" haha. Call it spiteful, or petty but, whatever, it's fun. Anyway yea, overall things are going well, I'm really happy with the progress I'm making physically too, my face looks so much softer and more feminine, my hair looks more full, I uhhh... won't be running without a sports bra this year lol. Going to my first laser hair removal appointment next month too so, that's exciting. Eventually I'll be rid of this awful lip hair XD There's some other changes that people just, don't really prepare you for. My hands are so much more soft and delicate now, I get so many random cuts and scratches now. Apparently between 1 and 2 years I might experience sensory changes, like my sense of touch, taste and smell, which is something nobody told me about beforehand lol. Thank you for sharing your experience so far with coming out, you have a lot of courage, Charlotte.
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Post by SteveUL on Mar 15, 2021 15:58:23 GMT -4
So give us an update. Since you started this journey, how has it gone with friends and family, your career ? Not asking you to share anything that you aren't ready to share. Just curious to see what you have dealt with along the way. First off, thanks very much for asking! I don't mind sharing at all Honestly, coming out here was kind of a... test run for me. It was the first place I came out that wasn't explicitly queer-friendly, if that makes sense? It's not that I expected it to go badly, but, this is a place where people are more close to what I'd see in real life, with diverse political and social views. Coming out here was terrifying, because I just didn't know what to expect. It could have gone really wrong, but, I knew I had to start somewhere. So, for everyone who sent me messages of support, I sincerely thank you, because it really did take a lot of that fear and doubt away for when I came out to my extended family, co-workers, etc. As for the rest of my life, it's been really good honestly! I mean, there have been some challenges, my grandmothers are tough, they don't really "get it", and one has dementia and can't really remember anyway. A few other family members have been a challenge too. I try to be understanding for sure, and I gave people a lot of passes for the first... 6 months or so, but like, eventually I had to start putting my foot down haha. "Slipping up" is expected but you can kinda tell when people are actually trying vs. people who don't really care. Like if you deadname me 5 times in 10 minutes, you're not trying. Work has been surprisingly great. I think the business world has gotten to the point where this is taken seriously, so, I'm sure memos were sent around haha. But yea, I've been she/her'd and called by my correct name since I came out in like August. Even during my awkward "I don't know how to dress myself" phase haha. (every Trans girl gets one Honestly I'm probably still in it, I'll look back in another 6 months and ask "What the hell was I thinking? / God learn how to do your makeup!") Actually I had a few really touching interactions with people at work, a lady just started last summer, I set up her PC, she saw me for the first time and told me I looked beautiful, which was... an incredible feeling. Also another lady gave me a scarf of hers because I had complimented one of her other ones she owned I think my worst interaction was with my building manager. When I asked to have my name changed on the lease she said "I'm always going to call you *deadname*" and that she was going to talk to her lawyers to see if she HAD to change my name. Tho, she did talk to her lawyers and they probably told her that I could sue her for her behavior so, she's VERY quick to call me Charlotte now, but obviously I feel like it's pretty fake. She also asked me questions about my relationship, which is none of her business. I actually just went to sign my lease this morning, so I made a point to put on makeup and put on the top that best shows off my uhh..... "new figure" haha. Call it spiteful, or petty but, whatever, it's fun. Anyway yea, overall things are going well, I'm really happy with the progress I'm making physically too, my face looks so much softer and more feminine, my hair looks more full, I uhhh... won't be running without a sports bra this year lol. Going to my first laser hair removal appointment next month too so, that's exciting. Eventually I'll be rid of this awful lip hair XD There's some other changes that people just, don't really prepare you for. My hands are so much more soft and delicate now, I get so many random cuts and scratches now. Apparently between 1 and 2 years I might experience sensory changes, like my sense of touch, taste and smell, which is something nobody told me about beforehand lol. Grandparents would probably be the hardest to understand. They grew up in a time when anybody that wasn't heterosexual just hid it from the world, to the point of marrying somebody of the "opposite sex" and having children ... as unhappy as they were. It just wasn't something they dealt with in their lives. I was born in the 60s so much of my life was spent not knowing that there were so many out there that didn't feel "normal" ("normal" being the skewed definition that our grandparents grew up with). I now believe that there is a big percentage (how big, not sure) of the world that feels differently than I do (heterosexual male), and now that they don't have to hide (some still do) we are seeing just how many people like that there are, even though many still hide. There is no such thing as "normal" anymore and I am just fine with that. As my kids grew up and had friends come around, I started to realize that the next generation was different than my generation, and those before me, and there were a lot of kids out there that didn't fit my "normal", and those kids were in my generation as well but had to hide. So I'm trying to learn and open my eyes a little. I hope I didn't say anything stupid in there as it was not my intention. I am still a bit of a dinosaur. I know that I don't understand all of the letters of the LBGTQ++.
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Post by Citris on Mar 15, 2021 17:40:53 GMT -4
Grandparents would probably be the hardest to understand. They grew up in a time when anybody that wasn't heterosexual just hid it from the world, to the point of marrying somebody of the "opposite sex" and having children ... as unhappy as they were. It just wasn't something they dealt with in their lives. I was born in the 60s so much of my life was spent not knowing that there were so many out there that didn't feel "normal" ("normal" being the skewed definition that our grandparents grew up with). I now believe that there is a big percentage (how big, not sure) of the world that feels differently than I do (heterosexual male), and now that they don't have to hide (some still do) we are seeing just how many people like that there are, even though many still hide. There is no such thing as "normal" anymore and I am just fine with that. As my kids grew up and had friends come around, I started to realize that the next generation was different than my generation, and those before me, and there were a lot of kids out there that didn't fit my "normal", and those kids were in my generation as well but had to hide. So I'm trying to learn and open my eyes a little. I hope I didn't say anything stupid in there as it was not my intention. I am still a bit of a dinosaur. I know that I don't understand all of the letters of the LBGTQ++. You're fine I get from the outside it can be a little difficult to keep up with. Not only am I trans but my partner is non-binary, and I still have stuff to learn and I'm really deep in that world. Personally, and I might be projecting a bit here I think "straight" people are a lot more rare than society would have you believe. I believe cis-heteronormativity is pretty strictly enforced, I think a lot of people convinced themselves they're straight. Idk, I'm a pan-lesbian so my views are a bit skewed. I'm attracted to anything, just don't think I could date men XD.
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